“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” — Dr. Brené Brown
On the plane back from San Francisco Sunday, I delved into Daring Greatly*, a book that had been untouched on my Kindle for an embarrassingly long time. The author’s TEDx talk entitled The Power of Vulnerability is probably one of the links I email to people most, so I’m not sure why it took me so long to start her book. The basic premise of all Dr. Brené Brown’s work is that everything we try to avoid in life, heartbreak, failure, looking stupid, being judged, is actually what keeps us from being happy and feeling connected. The armor we put up to protect ourselves from being vulnerable is actually what hurts us the most.
A fascinating concept, and one that I find to be incredibly true. It’s especially interesting to think about as a blogger and someone who lives on social media, because in all honesty, there’s a lot I don’t share for all of the reasons listed above.
Here are her points on living a whole-hearted life, and embracing vulnerability, because I think they’re pretty beautiful and I’m guessing they’re not just something I need to work on.
10 Guideposts for Whole-Hearted Living
1. Cultivate Authenticity: Let go of what people think
2. Cultivate Self-compassion: Let go of perfection
3. Cultivate a Resilient Spirit: Let go of numbing (aka food, wine, Xanax) and powerlessness
4. Cultivate Gratitude and Joy: Let go of scarcity
5. Cultivate Intuition and Trusting Faith: Let go of the need for certainty
6. Cultivate Creativity: Let go of comparison
7. Cultivate Play and Rest: Let go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth
8. Cultivate Calm and Stillness: Let go of anxiety as a life-style
9. Cultivate Meaningful Work: Let go of self-doubt and “supposed to”
10. Cultivate Laughter, Song and Dance: Let go of being cool and always in control
Aren’t these great? Which ones do you think you need to work on the most? I’m focusing on 1, 8 and 9.
* The full title is: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vunerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead and these 10 points were originally in her book The Gift of Imperfection.